"Your married life, my dear," she went on, "will be what you choose to make of it.

You have a husband.

Never let yourself indulge in silly repinings or ruinous longings.

Make the best of what you have.
Study your husband, not ungenerously and superciliously, but with eyes determined to see the virtues that can be developed, the faults that can be cured, and with eyes that will not linger on the faults that can't be cured.

Make him your constant thought and care.