"In my opinion, this is something contradictory to some other expressions.

People talk of being in love just as widows do of affliction.

Mr.Steele has observed, in one of his plays, the most passionate among them have always calmness enough to drive a hard bargain with the upholders.

I never knew a lover that would not willingly secure his interest as well as his mistress; or, if one must be abandoned, had not the prudence (among all his distractions) to consider, a woman was but a woman, and money was a thing of more real merit than the whole sex put together.

Your letter is to tell me, you should think yourself undone if you married me; but if I would be so tender as to confess I should break my heart if you did not, then you'd consider whether you would or no; but yet you hoped you should not.