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Gentle Measures in the Management and Training of the Young

CHAPTER XII
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You will not go back for punishment, for you would not have made the noise on purpose, and so would not deserve any punishment.

It is only to help you remember, and so to form the habit of coming into a room in a quiet and gentlemanly manner." Now Georgie, especially if all his mother's management of him is conducted in this spirit, will enter into this plan with great cordiality.
"I should not propose this plan," continued his mother, "if I thought that when I say _Noise_, and you have to go out and come in again, it would put you out of humor, and make you cross or sullen.

I am sure you will be good-natured about it, and even if you consider it a kind of punishment, that you will go out willingly, and take the punishment like a man; and when you come in again you will come in still, and look pleased and happy to find that you are carrying out the plan honorably." Then if, on the first occasion when he is sent back, he _does_ take it good-naturedly, this must be noticed and commended.
Now, unless we are entirely wrong in all our ideas of the nature and tendencies of the infantile mind, it is as certain that a course of procedure like this will be successful in curing the fault which is the subject of treatment, as that water will extinguish fire.

It cures it, too, without occasioning any irritation, annoyance, or ill-humor in the mind either of mother or child.

On the contrary, it is a source of real satisfaction and pleasure to them both, and increases and strengthens the bond of sympathy by which their hearts are united to each other.
_The Principle involved_.
It must be understood distinctly that this case is given only as an illustration of a principle which is applicable to all cases.


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