The choice rests exclusively with yourself .-- And here rid your mind of any cant about moral obligations.
Both ways have merit, both bring rewards--of sorts--are equally commendable, equally right.

Only this--whether you choose blinkers, your barrel between the shafts and another man's whip tickling your loins, or the reins in your own hands and the open road ahead, be faithful to your choice.

Stick to it, through evil report as well as through good." He lifted his hand off Tom's shoulder.

And the latter, looking round at him was struck--in mingled admiration and repulsion--by his likeness to some shapely bird of prey, with fierce hooked beak and russet-grey eyes, luminous, cruel perhaps, yet very sad.
"Above all be careful in the matter of your affections," Sir Charles went on, his voice deepening.

"As you value your career, the pride of your intellect,--yes--and the pride of your manhood itself, let nothing feminine tempt you to be unfaithful to your choice.