To some extent that is quite inevitable if we are to insist that a woman should bind herself to marry a man before she has experienced the nature of the forces that marriage may unloose in her.

A young girl believes she possesses a certain character; she arranges her future in accordance with that character; she marries.

Then, in a considerable proportion of cases (five out of six, according to the novelist Bourget), within a year or even a week, she finds she was completely mistaken in herself and in the man she has married; she discovers within her another self, and that self detests the man to whom she is bound.

That is a possible fate against which only the woman who has already been aroused to love is entitled to regard herself as fairly protected.
There is, however, a certain kind of protection which it is possible to afford the bride, even without departing from our most conventional conceptions of marriage.

We can at least insist that she shall be accurately informed as to the exact nature of her physical relations to her future husband and be safeguarded from the shocks or the disillusions which marriage might otherwise bring.