Challenges should not mention the duellist; he has nothing much at stake, and the real vengeance cannot reach him.
The challenge should summon the offender's old gray mother, and his young wife and his little children,--these, or any to whom he is a dear and worshipped possession--and should say, "You have done me no harm, but I am the meek slave of a custom which requires me to crush the happiness out of your hearts and condemn you to years of pain and grief, in order that I may wash clean with your tears a stain which has been put upon me by another person." The logic of it is admirable: a person has robbed me of a penny; I must beggar ten innocent persons to make good my loss.

Surely nobody's "honor" is worth all that.
Since the duellist's family are the real principals in a duel, the State ought to compel them to be present at it.

Custom, also, ought to be so amended as to require it; and without it no duel ought to be allowed to go on.

If that student's unoffending mother had been present and watching the officer through her tears as he raised his pistol, he--why, he would have fired in the air.

We know that.