The latter quality you possess, the former not.
"Now, dear Peel, the first impression on so young a girl's mind is of immense consequence, accustomed as she has been to the open and affectionate manner of Lord Melbourne, who, _entre nous_, treats her as a father, and, with all his faults, feels for her as such."-- _Sir Robert Peel_, Parker, vol.ii.p.

389.] [Pageheading: LORD MELBOURNE'S ADVICE] _Viscount Melbourne to Queen Victoria._ _9th May 1839._ Lord Melbourne presents his humble duty to your Majesty.

He has read with the greatest attention the very clear and distinct account which your Majesty has written of that which passed at the Audiences which your Majesty has given to the Duke of Wellington and Sir Robert Peel.
Nothing could have been more proper and judicious than your Majesty's conduct, and they appear to have acted upon their part with propriety and sincerity.

Lord Melbourne has no doubt that both with respect to him (Lord Melbourne) and to themselves and their own feelings and position, they expressed what they really think.

The Duke was right in saying that in general, in affairs of this nature, it is best not to begin with conditions; but this matter of the Household is so personal to yourself, that it was best to give an intimation of your feelings upon it in the first instance.