If you want any help in making up your mind, you are not in love with that young man.
You don't 'care for' him, in the technical sense of the term." "But he's very nice, Nancy.

He's a big-hearted, fine-minded----" "Upstanding, clean-cut American gentleman.

Let me help you out.

Yes, Patty, he's all those things and more.

But if you don't love him you mustn't marry him.