So the good-mannered study, observe, and adopt all that is finest and most worthy of imitation in every cultured person they meet.
Throw a bone to a dog, said a shrewd observer, and he will run off with it in his mouth, but with no vibration in his tail.

Call the dog to you, pat him on the head, let him take the bone from your hand, and his tail will wag with gratitude.

The dog recognizes the good deed and the gracious manner of doing it.

Those who throw their good deeds should not expect them to be caught with a thankful smile.
"Ask a person at Rome to show you the road," said Dr.Guthrie of Edinburgh, "and he will always give you a civil and polite answer; but ask any person a question for that purpose in this country (Scotland), and he will say, 'Follow your nose and you will find it.' But the blame is with the upper classes; and the reason why, in this country, the lower classes are not polite is because the upper classes are not polite.

I remember how astonished I was the first time I was in Paris.
I spent the first night with a banker, who took me to a pension, or, as we call it, a boarding-house.