I don't mean his saying that has anything to do with it.

But he says such things with great tact.

I had told him I felt ill at my ease, staying here at such a time; it seemed to me so indiscreet--it wasn't as if I could nurse.

'You must remain, you must remain,' he answered; 'your office will come later.' Wasn't that a very delicate way of saying both that poor Mr.Touchett would go and that I might be of some use as a consoler?
In fact, however, I shall not be of the slightest use.

Your aunt will console herself; she, and she alone, knows just how much consolation she'll require.